Mastering the choice between gerunds and infinitives is a turning point in English fluency. This guide breaks down the rules of experience vs. intent with clear examples and visual aids.
In English, this is often called "Verb Patterns." The secret to mastering them isn't just memorizing a long list of words; it lies in understanding the mental model behind the verb. Are you describing an experience you are having, or an intention you want to fulfill? Once you grasp this logic, the choice becomes intuitive.
We typically use the gerund (-ing) after verbs that describe feelings, enjoyment, avoidance, or completion. We call these "Experience Verbs" because they focus on the action as a general concept or something you are already involved in.
Common "Experience" Verbs:
Think of the gerund as a "noun-like" version of the verb. When you say "I enjoy swimming," you are talking about the activity of swimming itself as a hobby or experience.
The infinitive (to + verb) is the form of intent, desire, and future plans. When you use an infinitive, you are often pointing toward an action that has not happened yet but is intended, expected, or decided upon.
Common "Intent" Verbs:
If the second action happens AFTER the first verb (decide first, then act later), use the infinitive. If the second action is the focus of the first verb (enjoy the action while doing it), use the gerund.
Some verbs are flexible—they can take both forms, but the meaning changes completely. Mastering these four verbs will instantly boost your English proficiency.
Stop + Gerund: Means to end or quit an activity.
Example: "He stopped smoking." (He no longer smokes).
Stop + Infinitive: Means to pause what you are doing in order to do something else.
Example: "He stopped to smoke." (He paused his walk to have a cigarette).
| Verb | + Gerund (-ing) | + Infinitive (to...) |
|---|---|---|
| Remember | Recall a past memory: "I remember meeting her." |
Don't forget a task: "Remember to meet her." |
| Forget | Lose a past memory: "I forgot locking the door." |
Fail to do a required task: "I forgot to lock the door." |
| Try | Experiment with a method: "Try adding more salt." (See if it tastes better) |
Make a difficult effort: "Try to lift this heavy box." (It's hard to do) |
Because many languages handle these verbs differently, learners often fall into specific patterns of error. In professional settings, using the correct form shows a high level of lingual control.
Mastering these verbs isn't just about grammar; it's about sounding more natural and professional. When you use the right verb pattern, your English flows more smoothly and your intentions are much clearer to the listener.
The choice between gerunds and infinitives is a turning point for many English learners. By shifting your focus from "memorization" to "mental models"—Experience vs. Intent—you take a massive step toward fluency. Keep practicing these patterns in your daily conversations, and soon you'll be choosing the right form without even thinking about it.